Stage Two

Maybe this is going to go a little quicker than I thought a couple hours ago.

My wife had a talk with me and said many people are crying. I have not been able to bring myself to watch any news, but they know what I know. And now I am thinking about the two-digit IQ half of America that just destroyed it and are cheering. This takes me out of denial, which I have already processed as my brain just playing a trick on me….and on to anger.

I imagine I will be stuck on anger for quite a while. But…maybe not.

After anger, then bargaining, then depression, then acceptance.

Sanjana Gupta, writing for https://www.verywellmind.com/the-bargaining-stage-of-grief-characteristics-and-coping-5272529#toc-when-bargaining-in-grief-becomes-a-problem

Contemporary Views
However, more recent research shows that the process of grieving may not necessarily follow a set pattern of specific reactions over time. People react to loss in different ways and grief can be messy.

-a more current interpretation of the theory is that:

“Denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance are some of the common reactions to loss. People may experience these emotions at any time during the grieving process and not necessarily in any particular order. Everyone may not necessarily experience all five of these emotions when grieving, as each person tends to have a unique bereavement process. Factors such as the severity of and circumstances surrounding the loss, individual differences in personality and temperament, and cultural, spiritual, and religious beliefs can play a role in the person’s grieving process.“

This is my third post today and I have a long drive ahead of me…so I will end it here for now. Bargaining seems to be next, and I will think about that. “In this stage, you may find yourself negotiating with yourself, with people around you, with fate, or with a higher power to try and mitigate or undo your loss.”